Hahahahaha, this is the day I have been waiting for! I have finally reached a time where I can bestow my wisdoms onto the next generation!
Okay, that might be a little over exaggeration.
But all kidding aside, I do think I might be able to give some pieces of advice for you who are graduating high school. After all, I have been out of high school for about 5 years now and I have certainly learned some things.
So, let’s start with the advice you will probably not take since teenagers are just way too stubborn.
Day 9. Give 14 pieces of advice to a teen who is graduating high school.
1. Say thank you
Thank the teachers that made an impact on you. Even if you just had a good time in their class. I promise you, your appreciation will make a bigger impact on them than you can even begin to imagine.
I know this might not seem cool, but you probably won’t have the chance later in life to thank those people and they really do a great job. I mean, when you get a couple of years older, you will realise what a snotty bunch of brats we all were in high school and that the teachers are just amazing for putting up with our crap.
Thank your parents. After all, they helped you get through high school, even if it doesn’t seem like it. They paid for your tuition, they helped you with your homework, they brought you to school or made sure you had food on the table. Either way, even if your relationship isn’t the best, I am sure you can find something that they did right.
I know I am starting with a controversial one and I know it isn’t cool to thank those people, but I wish I was mature enough then to show my appreciation, but I didn’t. But you should tell them. They will forever remember your gratitude.
2. Celebrate the good years you had with your friends and talk about your dreams.
Your real dreams, the ones that lay beyond a few years and keep you up at night. Talk about the big stuff. I know you are still young, but right now you are still free from all the pressure of society and this really is the perfect time to start chasing what you have always wanted. And I mean, really wanted.
3. Don’t make idle promises to your high school friends.
Some of them will last, but most of them won’t. You will probably all go your own separate ways and if you made promises to keep in touch, more often than not, you will feel that guilty pang when you can’t deliver.
Get that out of the way by wishing them the best and being realistic with them. Keep the promises you make.
4. Make time for yourself. Spend time alone. Get to know yourself.
Life after high school will be a roller coaster of excitement and it will be so easy to neglect yourself. You will be surrounded by new people, by new things, by new sights, and you might think this is good for you, and it is. But don’t forget that you are the one person you are taking everywhere. So you better make sure you damn well like yourself.
Even though it might seem like an impossible thing, eventually you will be at peace with yourself. Self love is a real thing and it will come, even if you are convinced it won’t.
5. Don’t neglect your younger siblings.
I know it isn’t cool to hang with them and spend time with them and in your eyes, they are just sooooo young, but they look up to you and will regard you as a role model. Don’t waste that opportunity to show your younger brothers and sisters what goods are awaiting them.
6. The real world is so much different than high school.
Yes, of course, there are still bullies everywhere you go and cheating will get you so far, but it will be different. The real world isn’t ruled by grades and you won’t have such an easy time getting out of trouble.
Hard work and effort never betrays.
7. If you thought your love life was complicated in high school, hang on to your hats.
It is about to become so much more lively. But it will be good. You will probably meet your first big, disastrous love about now and it will shake your world to the core. But you will come out a better person.
8. After high school, the world goes open for you.
You can do anything you want, you can become anything you want, you can feel anything you want. This is the time to travel and discover new countries, the time to make friends for life, the time to experiment with your sexuality, the time for new things.
9. If you need it, use this as a fresh start. You won’t regret it.
10. You are not an adult yet and you don’t have to be one.
Have fun after high school. Anything goes, really. You are in the sweet spot between a child and a fully functioning adult. That is the best time because you get the benefits of both. This truly is the time of your life.
11. I can’t stress this enough: figure out the difference between what you want to do and what you are supposed to do.
I know it is hard to distinguish, but if you don’t do it now, you will have to do it later. If you don’t think about it now, you might be one of those people that has a mid-life crisis where they abandon everything they have to start a goat cheese farm.
Even if you think you can pretend your whole life to love something you don’t, you can’t. Your true passion will catch up with you sometime and you won’t be able to ignore it forever.
12. Live regret free. Make the best of life.
And with that I mean, every time you have to make a big decision, ask yourself this:
“ Will I regret not trying this?”
If the answer is yes, go for it!
13. You will have to start thinking for yourself.
You got a good brain between your ears, you will have to start using it now. The real world isn’t made up of grades, cheating, and excuses. Take responsibility for the things you do and take the right things serious.
14. Most people around you pretend to know what they are doing, but honestly, most of us are just faking it.
Don’t get thrown off by what the world projects. Everyone is just as clueless as you, apart from a lucky few. So don’t feel bad if you can’t immediately figure out what you want your life to be.
BONUS: We are the future of this world.
We will be the parents of the next future of this world. What you do makes an impact, even if you think it doesn’t. Every generation makes an impact. Live in your time and stand up for what you believe in. Your world is what you turn it into. Never forget that.
Heartbreak through my eyes.
The life I wasn’t brave enough to chase.